I am not being a jerk, I just wanted to provide a safe place for you to find out why nobody likes you. As a pastor I have heard many … many people complain that they have no friends. Some people blame it on the church (for not being friendly enough). Some blame it on the human race (for not making a better effort to reach out to them). I always want to tell them, as loving as I can, what is really the problem. It IS one or all of the following behaviors that distances yourself from others.
Nobody likes you because …
1. You only talk about yourself.
They really do care about what’s happening in your life, but when that’s all you ever talk about it becomes like watching a sad television program. They can’t change the channel because it’s stuck on your station. They care about you, but if you can’t come up for air long enough to find out (and genuinely care) about something happening in their life, then you can’t be friends. Not because they don’t want to, but because you don’t want to.
Change your life:
..in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others. Philippians 2:3-4
2. You’re negative
No one minds the occasional vent- A rant about your job or even what you expect from the government. However, that’s not what you tend to do. This seems to be your only method of having a conversation. You complain about everyone and everything. This is especially bad for you. The more negative you are the less people want to be around you and the more negative and bitter you, in turn, become.
Change your life:
Do everything without grumbling or arguing, so that you may become blameless and pure, “children of God without fault in a warped and crooked generation.” Philippians 2:14-15
3. You think you know everything.
Most of us want to appear knowledgeable. However, it seems you can’t be taught. You rarely (maybe never) say the words “wow, I didn’t know that.” It’s worse than that. You pretend to have knowledge about things that you have no idea about.
Change your life:
Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak. James 1:19
Do not think of yourself more highly than you ought, but rather think of yourself with sober judgment. Romans12:3
4. You are just too needy
People around you like to help support you emotionally. They want to be there for you. Yet, no amount of time seems to be enough. You don’t seem to be willing to do life on your own. They want to be someone you can lean on, but they get the idea that you want to treat them like a hospital bed. That’s not going to work for those around you, and it’s not a good situation for you to be in.
Change your life:
It is more blessed to give than to receive. Acts 20:35
No one should be desperate for the attention of other people. I am not talking about that. I am just talking about being a nice person. People gravitate toward nice people, and the opposite is just as true.
